Can a man get a massage from a woman
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From a halachic perspective, a man getting a massage from a woman (or vice-versa) in a professional spa or medical setting is permitted. The Shulchan Aruch (Please see Shulchan Aruch Even HaEzer 21:5) prohibits receiving personal services from women because in that time such acts (like washing hands and feet) were considered intimate marital tasks (see also EH 80:4, Ketubot 61a). However, the Rema there cites the Rashb”a, the Mordechai (Ketubot), and Tosafot (Kiddushin) who explain that where the service is professional and not sexual—such as bathhouse attendants—it was permitted and commonly practiced.
In modern Western culture, massages are viewed as professional health or spa services, not intimate marital acts. Therefore, following the approach of the Mordechai and Tosafot, it is halachically permitted. (It is likely not a Machloket/dispute, but rather different times and cultures) If, however, for a particular individual the experience is sexual in nature, then he/she should refrain. But if it is not, then there is no halachic concern.