||Thanks. But in reality there are no specific rules. These are things that at times there was a standard procedure and for Shalom Bayit (peace at home), you follow procedures. Today there is not any real solid standard, so do what you both agree to. Certainly the Zaidis and Bubbys should keep their comments to themselves. Especially since they remember the frustrations that they felt and the fighting that was caused to them when they were in this stage in life.....