||I'm not sure what post you're referring to. However, I do feel your pain. I've been dealing with this type of issue for all my life. My father is always following the Shulchan Aruch, whether it matches common sense or not. That is the exact reason that many other Rabbis don't agree with him.
PS. save the hugs and kisses. Just spend time with your kids, treat your kids with respect and sincerely love them and you'll be better off than those that h&k and are never home