||Is this just from memory, or you have sources?
Are you suggesting that the last time Jewish Men wore earrings was before the "Egel," golden calf?
In regards to "Chavalah-cut- into ones self," this should be the same for women. Are you saying that women cannot wear earrings?
Or maybe you are just looking to justify your tradition, by hook or by crook....
In line with those traditions, it seems that the Shulchan Aruch in 301 forbids men to wear hats on Shabbat, and in 303 permits men to wear rings on Shabbat. Not much into your traditions.