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Author:  Anonymous
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Date:  1/30/2005 1:41:00 PM
Subject:  Grounds for Divorce
Message:  If a wife never davens, says birkat hamazon or studies the halachot/Torah that are applicable to her, in addition to other lapses in observance/interest in Judaism - and all this is despite years of her husband trying to convince, coax or entice her to do so - should he divorce her? In the case in question, when he married her he thought she was more religious, but she has a very technical approach to avoiding the "do-not's" of religion and is not motivated to develop further or to commit to basic halachic requirements that are positive, i.e. active, in nature. To offer another example, although her husband works several jobs in order to support the family (she works none), and they have a cleaning lady and daily childcare help (so the wife is not "overwhelmed"), she still resists the idea that the husband should be supported and provided time to learn Torah when he isn't working. Instead, she wants him to assume childcare responsibilities when home at night or on vacation, thus leaving him one or two hours an evening to learn before he collapses at night from sheer exhaustion. In other words, she has no personal spiritual aspirations and does not even support those of other family members. So again, is divorce a reasonable option here? The concern is that the wife's attitude, aside from pulling the husband down, will also deleteriously affect the values of their children.
Reply:  This has nothing to do with religion. This is very clear grounds for need for marriage counseling. Tell that to the people in question.

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