Date: 1/7/2005 10:13:25 AM
Subject: shiva for adoptees
Message: Message: does an adopted child who is a ger sit shiva for her adopted parents, shom she considers her real parents?
Reply: Tough issue, but nope. Ger or Jewish from birth.
What about the reverse...where the adoptee knows who his biological parents are? Does he sit shiva when they die?
Reply: Yes, they are still his parents.
I don't understand the reasooning for this. What if the biological parents gave her up at birth. And what if she converted as an infant. Don't we learn that a parent is defined by how they brought up the child, not that they had a moment of intamcy?